How To Choose Your First Sex Toy

How To Choose Your First Sex Toy

So, you've decided to take the plunge and purchase your first ever sex toy.

While congratulations are in order - there are a few things we think you should consider first, to make sure you get the most out of your purchase.

Choosing your first toy is actually no cake walk. Pleasure is big business, so the adult toy market is full of different sex toys and devices designed for a vast array of different uses.

So how do you wade through the overwhelming sea of products to find the one that's right for you?

We want you to get it right, and not make any mistakes that could see you turned off from the fun and exciting world of adult toys. At the end of the day, we want you to choose the toy that's right for you.

As such, there are a couple of things you should consider before purchasing your first ever toy.

1) Do your research.

If you're new to the world of adult toys then it's important to educate yourself.

Not sure what the difference is between a vibrator and a dildo? Unable to tell your butt-plugs from your bullets? Then do a little light research on the different types of sex toys before you start shopping, just to give yourself a better understanding of the products on the market, and their different uses. 

Also, be sure to read the instructions. This way you can be sure to avoid materials that may give you an allergic reaction (some people are allergic to materials such as latex).

It's also a good idea to opt for something that is easy to clean. If the toy is made of a porous substance then note that this can be harder to clean than nonporous substances like silicone. Bear all of these things in mind so that you don't end up purchasing something that ends up becoming a headache!

2) Consider Your Primary Pleasure

Once you've done a little light research to familiarise yourself with what's out there, consider what it is that you actually want your new toy to do. Pay attention to your own body and take note of what really gets your juices flowing! In other words, consider your primary pleasure - that sweet spot that you want your new toy to satisfy.

Are you looking to improve your sex life with your partner? Or are you looking to stimulate a specific area?

Perhaps you're looking for greater clitoral stimulation, or maybe you want to indulge in a little anal play? Consider what you want, and narrow down your search results according to your primary pleasure. This way you're more likely to choose something that you reach for over and over again - rather than indulging for a while before becoming bored or dissatisfied.

Once you’ve decided on sex toy, google some independent reviews by typing “xxx reviews” where xxx is the brand name and type of your product. There are loads of sex toy bloggers who review products so see what they say first. 

3) Decide How You'll Be Using Your Toy

Aside from considering what you actually want to get from your sex toy (your primary pleasure), you should have some idea of how you are actually planning on using the device once you've purchased it.

Will the toy be for solo use, or are you planning on using it with a partner? Is it to be part of a role-play scenario, or will it be something that you can just grab when the feeling hits you?

These are all things to consider before purchasing your toy. If you're looking for something to use with a partner - then check out the different features before clicking that buy it button. If it's a dildo, is it compatible with a harness? If it's a vibrator, does it stimulate male as well as female erogenous zones?

Or, if it’s some quality alone time that you're after then you might want to opt for something discreet. Try looking for a compact toy with a discreet design, as well as quiet motor if it's a vibrating toy that you're going for.

4) Keep Things Simple

It's easy to become overwhelmed with all the toys there are on the market. But, if you've considered the above points carefully, then hopefully you'll have at least some idea of what you want your toy to do - and can make your decisions based on this knowledge.
When you narrow down your search, keep your primary pleasures and the intended use of your toy firmly in mind.

Don’t opt for some all-singing, all-dancing sex toy with multiple attachments and a multitude of different functions. Often these are more expensive (and with good reason - some of them are fantastic), but for your first sex toy, we believe that keeping things simple is the best way.

It's easy to be seduced by online reviews and marketing ploys, but at the end of the day only you know what feels right for you - so stick to that. Often the product descriptions of certain toys will suggest whether the device is a good entry-level toy, so be sure to take note. You know your body better than anybody else, and you know what pushes the right buttons (in the right order) for you.

5) Remember: Size Matters

Contrary to popular belief, size does matter. At least, in the world of sex-toys it does.

When purchasing your first sex toy, you need to keep in mind the dimensions that will feel comfortable to you (if you're purchasing a vibrator, or a toy to be used for penetration). You're an expert at knowing what feels good to you, so opt for something with the right length and girth, without being too overly ambitious.

One tip for selecting a toy with the proper girth is to consider how many fingers you can comfortably slip inside the orifice you'll be using the toy for. Hold that number of fingers up against the largest part of the toy's insertable length, and see how it measures up. Alternatively, if you don't have the toy at hand, check the measurements of the toy and then measure your fingers accordingly.

When it comes to length, keep in mind that you can always hold back with a longer toy, but if your toy falls short, there's not a lot you can do. Be sure to consider the length that usually feels comfortable to you, and opt for a toy that's either of that length, or slightly longer (but never shorter).


Via Mimi Di.

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